To what use is a bridge when the river is so deep,
the current so strong,
that one has no choice but to drown?
There is a recurring concept in Steve Carell’s film Dan in Real Life that questions how quickly it is possible to fall in love with someone. We’re obviously talking deep connection, the one where you instantly are transported to another dimension when in the company of this person. I hate to throw the term out there, but one might be described as a ‘soulmate’.
Let me explain the concept before you roll your eyes and walk away; these mates can appear in many ways, shapes and forms. I have a certain friend with whom our soul connection made us instant kin. People that you lose touch with but who reappear just as their sage-like wisdom and advice are needed. They enter our lives and forever alter them for the better, even if by giving us the information required to make the changes ourselves. Or to show us what we need to make our own earth-shattering realisations. Though it broke my heart to do so, today I said goodbye to my favourite kind of ‘mate’… surely a painful necessity.
See, the thing about soulmates is not expecting them, and then not expecting anything from them. They play their purpose and teach us the lessons we require at that time, like being reminded how it feels to be truly loved and cared for. Or that you are more than deserving of the right person. There is something to be said for being able to converse with someone purely through eye contact. I have learned so much about spirituality, nationality, ethnicity, culture (mine and theirs), have been encouraged to write and to engage in my passions and to remember to breathe through life and all it has… both good and bad.
The born romantic in me has always wanted to really believe in the concept spoken of in Dan in Real Life, but the past two weeks of my life have shown it to be true and so very possible. My heart is full from having been shown such love and humanity, and my soul is golden from receiving this honest, intimate friendship. There have been many tears, and no doubt there will be more, but the time has lapsed on this love affair and I am now tasked with working out how to encounter my every day without them once again, truly grateful that our brief yet profound relationship ever existed. This I will use to breathe underwater and safely bring myself back to solid ground.